BLAME GAME – WORST ENEMY!!

On a normal evening where clouds are clear, a bit dark, winds blew at regular speed there is a girl. The Girl’s expression is like one of the sculptures that never change, she is worried, arguing, the creases on her forehead do tell about it. Even she is restless on the windiest days as if she is fighting against someone or against something she even doesn’t know.

When you hear – she is saying that it’s not my fault. She is the one who needs to fix this. I have nothing to say, your actions did all this I am just a sufferer. Another day she is saying this to another person. But if she is not at fault why is she feeling this? If blame is of others then why is she anxious, frustrated, in conflict what’s this?

But things changed until she started going to a seminar held at the nearest bookstore which says – ATTEND IF THINGS ARE UNFAIR!!

Many people gathered to attend this seminar on Saturday evening from 5:30 p.m. onwards. The spokesperson is Ms. Maria, who talks about issues of blames, their impacts, and much more.

The Seminar begins with Ms. Maria and she asks some crucial questions such as;

Do you feel that you’re not at fault yet it’s devastating? Do you blame others for the things happening to you because they were unfair to you? Do all things somehow happens because others didn’t work well? Do you blame others for things happening – like not getting your desired jobs, for some loopholes, for some improper decisions, and much more? If all this resonates with you then you might need to see a different perspective.

I believe that sometimes people do wrong, sometimes situations aren’t in favor of you, sometimes the world is wrong. But why is the process you feel worse? When others at fault why still you’re angry, resentment and not feeling good. Is it so that you also have some part to play?

I am here to talk about the part we play even if it’s 1%. The Book Gift of Therapy mentions that even therapists can work on that where the change is expected. The part which can bring things to better and that is your part even if that’s 1%. Find your 1%.

You know it always seems easy to blame others for our situation but what you do to make it right. Have you put faith, strength, and love to change it or you put disappointment, hatred, frustration to make it worse.

Even I hear people who avoid taking their decision so just in future, they have someone to blame, if things go wrong. Strange isn’t it? That how much we fear blaming that we end up blaming others. I am not trying to convince you who is wrong or who is right? But to say that start to take responsibility. I understand this seems like a heavy term but it’s a relieving one. Responsibility allows us to see things from a different point of view. It allows us to change things and take care of them. It brings the idea of self-growth, adaptive strategies, and upliftment. Choose for your good.

Consequences of the Blame game:-

I have to say this ;

• It blocks our minds from seeing good things.
• We waste our energy on others rather than using it on ourselves.
• We unconsciously choose to make poor decisions because we barely give it thought.
• We began to copy other actions.
• We stop looking for our strengths.
• When we blame others our thought processes, reaction, and even emotions are controlled by others.
• In long run, it makes us more anxious, annoyed, frustrated and leads to internal conflict.

Today don’t go being offended rather stop for a moment. Just think and ask do you also do that? If yes, then why? Is it making you better? If not, what could I do to change it? Take that 1% and change your world bit by bit and trust me it will heal soon.

P.S – And if you’re thinking who is the one narrating this then I am the sky, I am everywhere, I even have geographical locations (don’t know why I write this but enjoy).

Have a ‘ HAAPY READING’…

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